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    • 28 The Dichotomy of Perceptions
    • 29 Changes in Latitude
  • The Amputation Journey
    • How did it come to this?
    • Pink Lemonade
    • The return of the Medicine Woman
  • Social Experiments in Hearing
    • 1 Loss: What is more tragic?
    • 2 Loosing Fear - the Q
    • 3 Persaverance
  • Main
  • My Beginning y mas
    • In the Beginning - I died
    • Hollow Hallowed Ground - An Open Letter to family
  • Changes - new stories unforlding
  • Snippets From Time
    • 1 Life interrupted
    • 2 If you dream your life...
    • 3 Ode to memories
    • 4 Sitting on the lateral... literally
    • 5 Disease doesn't hang out in the brain
    • 6 Dia de muertos
    • 7 Face it head on!
    • 8 Someone Asked Me
    • 9 Am I more spiritual if...
    • 10 Love vs intelligence?
    • 11 Charity wrapped in dignity
    • 12 Being Strong Women
    • 13 How do you stop overthinking "it"?
    • 14 Ode to parrot head lyrics
    • 15 Embracing our changes
    • 16 Being called crazy
    • 17 Listening - tellings - do it
    • 18 Journeys end... or not
    • 19 The Merida journey - Little lives
    • 20 The Merida journey - Not so little Deaths
    • 21 Beyond the comfort zone
    • 22 Daddy
    • 23 Loss in the time of Covid
    • 24 Relationship Canyons
    • 25 Gone or just beyond
    • 26 Mind evolution
    • 27 You never know who will show up
    • 28 The Dichotomy of Perceptions
    • 29 Changes in Latitude
  • The Amputation Journey
    • How did it come to this?
    • Pink Lemonade
    • The return of the Medicine Woman
  • Social Experiments in Hearing
    • 1 Loss: What is more tragic?
    • 2 Loosing Fear - the Q
    • 3 Persaverance
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Loss: Which is more tragic?

A question was posed tonight - 10 June 2021
Which is more tragic?
- Loosing someone to a sudden death like an accident
- or to a long term disease such as cancer.

It's loss. The loss is not more tragic for the method.
I posed that the tragedy , was related to the communication before the loss.
A loss proceeded by angry communication leaves a sense of guilt to ride along with the grief.
Thanks for making me look at grief and loss differently Caesar!
"Yes loss is loss however I opine that drawn out suffering is harder on everyone."
"Sudden death is more tragic and less painful in certain ways."

Yes , you see the loss is painful. This is taken as a given.
But it is not compounded by a lack of communication. "I was angry at them - and they were killed in an accident". "We'd not spoken". "I wasn't honest, I never told them, I wish I had said.
When we open to communicate truth/love/honesty then no matter the loss - we do not carry the pain of the unsaid. There is no "I wish I'd told them". Maybe more often - but no pain of not having said the part of love, the piece of honesty, the showing of our heart. "They know I loved them". It is our biggest (I think) that we can give to anyone - whether we loose them to death or a separation of ways and new paths.
They know they were loved.
I LOVE YOU, and honor each. How we process grief - takes time.
I'm so grateful for those who read, respond and if I help - I'm blessed in return.
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  • Main
  • My Beginning y mas
    • In the Beginning - I died
    • Hollow Hallowed Ground - An Open Letter to family
  • Changes - new stories unforlding
  • Snippets From Time
    • 1 Life interrupted
    • 2 If you dream your life...
    • 3 Ode to memories
    • 4 Sitting on the lateral... literally
    • 5 Disease doesn't hang out in the brain
    • 6 Dia de muertos
    • 7 Face it head on!
    • 8 Someone Asked Me
    • 9 Am I more spiritual if...
    • 10 Love vs intelligence?
    • 11 Charity wrapped in dignity
    • 12 Being Strong Women
    • 13 How do you stop overthinking "it"?
    • 14 Ode to parrot head lyrics
    • 15 Embracing our changes
    • 16 Being called crazy
    • 17 Listening - tellings - do it
    • 18 Journeys end... or not
    • 19 The Merida journey - Little lives
    • 20 The Merida journey - Not so little Deaths
    • 21 Beyond the comfort zone
    • 22 Daddy
    • 23 Loss in the time of Covid
    • 24 Relationship Canyons
    • 25 Gone or just beyond
    • 26 Mind evolution
    • 27 You never know who will show up
    • 28 The Dichotomy of Perceptions
    • 29 Changes in Latitude
  • The Amputation Journey
    • How did it come to this?
    • Pink Lemonade
    • The return of the Medicine Woman
  • Social Experiments in Hearing
    • 1 Loss: What is more tragic?
    • 2 Loosing Fear - the Q
    • 3 Persaverance