Loss: Which is more tragic?
A question was posed tonight - 10 June 2021
Which is more tragic?
- Loosing someone to a sudden death like an accident
- or to a long term disease such as cancer.
It's loss. The loss is not more tragic for the method.
I posed that the tragedy , was related to the communication before the loss.
A loss proceeded by angry communication leaves a sense of guilt to ride along with the grief.
Thanks for making me look at grief and loss differently Caesar!
Which is more tragic?
- Loosing someone to a sudden death like an accident
- or to a long term disease such as cancer.
It's loss. The loss is not more tragic for the method.
I posed that the tragedy , was related to the communication before the loss.
A loss proceeded by angry communication leaves a sense of guilt to ride along with the grief.
Thanks for making me look at grief and loss differently Caesar!
"Yes loss is loss however I opine that drawn out suffering is harder on everyone." |
"Sudden death is more tragic and less painful in certain ways." |
Yes , you see the loss is painful. This is taken as a given.
But it is not compounded by a lack of communication. "I was angry at them - and they were killed in an accident". "We'd not spoken". "I wasn't honest, I never told them, I wish I had said.
When we open to communicate truth/love/honesty then no matter the loss - we do not carry the pain of the unsaid. There is no "I wish I'd told them". Maybe more often - but no pain of not having said the part of love, the piece of honesty, the showing of our heart. "They know I loved them". It is our biggest (I think) that we can give to anyone - whether we loose them to death or a separation of ways and new paths.
They know they were loved.
I LOVE YOU, and honor each. How we process grief - takes time.
I'm so grateful for those who read, respond and if I help - I'm blessed in return.
But it is not compounded by a lack of communication. "I was angry at them - and they were killed in an accident". "We'd not spoken". "I wasn't honest, I never told them, I wish I had said.
When we open to communicate truth/love/honesty then no matter the loss - we do not carry the pain of the unsaid. There is no "I wish I'd told them". Maybe more often - but no pain of not having said the part of love, the piece of honesty, the showing of our heart. "They know I loved them". It is our biggest (I think) that we can give to anyone - whether we loose them to death or a separation of ways and new paths.
They know they were loved.
I LOVE YOU, and honor each. How we process grief - takes time.
I'm so grateful for those who read, respond and if I help - I'm blessed in return.
